Meggan B. Wolfensberger
Meggan Wolfensberger pulled out all the stops to make sure her last Christmas in 2010 with her children was special. Pictured, from left, are Alyssa Stouffer; Lilly Gullace, sitting in Meggan's lap; and Ashton Stouffer. (Submitted Photo)
Instead of celebrating with cake, candles and balloons, Debbie Wolfensberger sits in her Virginia Avenue home, wondering how it came to be that her home is filled with many of her daughter's belongings.
Meggan died May 17, less than a year after being diagnosed with cervical cancer in August 2010. Her doctor had given her two years to live.
Cleaning out Meggan's rented Greencastle, Pa., house by the end of May was difficult.
"It's like wiping her memory off the face of the earth. It's very hard. It's too soon," Debbie said as she struggled to hold back tears.
Meggan was born at Washington County Hospital, with her name spelled with one "g" on her birth certificate. At some point, she started spelling her name with two g's and it stuck, Debbie said.
She grew up in the West End of Hagerstown and Williamsport, graduating from Williamsport High School in 2002. She had an older brother, Devon Wolfensberger, and a half brother, Derrick Wolfensberger, both of Hagerstown.
Her mother's longtime fiancé, Mark "Grizz" Kline, has been with the family since Meggan was 4 months old.
"She always turned to Grizz for everything," Debbie said.
Grizz said Meggan called him whenever she had something to be fixed.
After high school, Meggan worked as a waitress and at First Data and Citicorp, and took classes at Kaplan University. Her last job was in customer service at United Health Group in Frederick, Md.
Meggan's daughter, Alyssa Stouffer, was born in 2003. Meggan married Alyssa's father, David Stouffer, in June 2006, walked down the aisle by both Grizz and her father, David Wolfensberger of Hagerstown.
Son Ashton was born in 2007. The marriage ended after about two years.
Meggan's youngest, Lilly Gullace, turned 2 three days before her mother died.
The children are being raised by their fathers.
Debbie said Alyssa is having the hardest time of the children adjusting to Meggan's death.
"They loved their mommy," Debbie said.
Meggan wanted to become a nurse, the result of helping her children through medical issues.
Alyssa was accidentally burned by hot water when she was just a year old. Meggan was running bath water for herself when Alyssa got into the tub and was burned by the hot water, Debbie said.