Paul Carrick Brunson is a dating expert with a man's point of view. he stopped by to talk about: places to meet someone new, old fashioned dating rules that still apply, why do guys wait so long to call or don't call, should girls correspond with guys via text only, what's a good first date with a total stranger.
IT'S COMPLICATED LIVE! Brooklyn
Wednesday, October 10 from 6:30-9:30 pm
The Green Building, 452 Union Street, Brooklyn, NY 21201
Ticket purchase includes a copy of his new book: It's Complicated: But It Doesn't Have to Be! http://bit.ly/itscomplicatedBK
Modern day relationships are hard. In a time when married politicians get caught sexting extra-marital sweethearts; when dating is an exaggerated ritual only seen on reality TV; when a couple is paid a reported $18 million to air their "fairy-tale" wedding, only to divorce 72 days later; and when more and more people are delaying marriage, dating, and serious relationships in pursuit of education and careers; it's time for a whole new set of dating and relationship rules.
In IT'S COMPLICATED (BUT IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE): A Modern Guide to Finding and Keeping Love (Gotham Books; E-book and Hardcover; October 11, 2012), Paul Carrick Brunson explains that modern-day relationships and marriage aren't for everyone and how you can overcome what he calls the singlehood problem--the idea that a person needs to be in a relationship or dating to be accepted into society. "We're taught to believe in the in¬evitability of love," Brunson explains. "That it'll just happen. That one day we'll walk into the right room and bells will ring, a choir will sing, and our long, dark single night will end, giving way to a bright new coupled day. But while this makes sense for the "happily ever afters" of our most popular romantic fiction, it doesn't make much sense in our practical lives."
In IT'S COMPLICATED (BUT IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE) Brunson breaks down these skewed and much abused notions about dating, including the idea of 'soul mates' or that not being in a relationship is a sign of failure, and tackles how to overcome them. Brunson undertakes relevant questions like:
How does one looking for a committed relationship navigate a modern-day world that mixes online with real life off-line?
Do the rules of chivalry still apply in modern dating and relationships or are they null and void in an era of equality?
What are the romantic obstacles that appear when dating with kids or dating after a divorce?
Can you date more than one person without hurting feelings?
What mode of communication is best for asking someone on a date (texting, Facebook messaging, emailing, or calling)?
What role do social media networking sites like Twitter, Facebook, and Foursquare play in this modern day world?
Brunson argues that the divorce rate is high because people are told they're supposed to get married, and not everyone is ready for it. They need to first accept that not everything in a relationship will be about them and have the capacity to compromise while in a serious relationship. The path to finding a partner begins with being honest about what you want, what marriage is and whether or not you're prepared for it. IT'S COMPLICATED (BUT IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE) isn't about lofty notions and pleasant platitudes.
It's about understanding the modern-day world of dating and relationships--and then getting real.
Paul Carrick Brunson (also known as the "Modern-day Matchmaker" and the "real life Hitch") is a professional matchmaker and certified life coach. He is the co-host of the new OWN show "LoveTown," debuting August 2012, the dating expert on Dr. Drew's daytime television show "LifeChangers," and a popular weekly columnist for Essence.com. Brunson received his life coaching certification from the International Coach Federation and studied the art and science of matchmaking with renowned matchmaker and bestselling author Rachel Greenwald. In 2009 he founded One Degree From Me, a premiere matchmaking and life coaching company, and since then he has matched over 3,000 people on dates, resulting in over 300 long-term matches A former investment banker and business executive, he holds an MBA from Georgetown University.
For more information, visit paulcbrunson.com/.